I got married on October 24, 2015 to my main squeeze. We met when we were 21 and within a month of dating, he told me he loved me. I was immature and had never had a serious boyfriend before so I spent the beginning of our courtship and relationship acting in a way that anyone else would describe as self sabotage. After meeting for the first time, he went in for a hug and I high fived him. On our first date, I insisted we meet up with my friends at the end of the date. One of our first memorable fights ended with me saying, “I just want to do whatever I want to do all the time.” Needless to say, if he hadn’t been patient with my shenanigans, I don’t think we’d have the life we do today. As with many couples, we lived together for a while before getting married. So when the engagement and wedding planning got under way and the question of a bridal shower popped up, to me it was a no brainer not to have one. My best buddy wrote this awesome article for Women’s Day Magazine explaining her reasoning for not wanting a bridal shower and IT.IS.EVERYTHING. I too opted out of having a bridal shower for a lot of the same reasons.